Centering Applications

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so let's look at how you can actually use centering in your daily life so centering something to learn formally on the webinars on the FCU no we'll practice it on the on the modules of course you can practice it at the beginning of your peer groups in fact we recommend a different person each week on your peer group leads a centering exercise the ABC you can have some notes at first you know it's a nice safe easy way to learn it before you work with clients later on it will be one of the main things you work with clients a lot of people incorporate it into their demonstrations at the end of the exams at the end as well definitely one of the most useful things embodyment teachers at least this all the time is like practical to top where and i do it in corporates all the time but if you can actually get it used to doing it in your own life when you then come to teach other people you have a lot of integrity you've had a lot of practice it would just seem very natural and very normal if you're used to doing it daily and also this can just improve your life as one of those kind of powerful embodiment tool quick win things you can do okay so let's look more generally about like state change in your life there's lots of ways you can state change right so you can get a massage you can do a bunch of yoga you could take drugs there's lots of ways to do it but all those things rely on a very particular external stimulus that you may not have access to I can't always get coffee for example or it can't always go get and you do a yoga class for an hour it's the beauty of centering is it's something you always have access to it's quick and sometimes you can even do it without anyone else noticing you know if you get as you get better at centering gets more subtle you can do it in a meeting or while your partner's having a go at you or where your kids are screaming and it's not weird so that's the beauty of centering as a form of state change the other form of state change you can use a lot is walking so you'll see us do this on modules we'll walk around and I'll get you know it's almost like a joke on a fc or get everyone walking around and then I'll say walk differently so without walking in a silly way it's just like walk in a slightly different way to shift your state again this is very practical because often in life we have this little walks between even if it's just back down the corridor to meetings or to pick up the kids or whatever so walking as a form of state changing that would be the very broadest definition of centering as any kind of state change but they're more narrow definition would be regulating the fight/flight response or slightly broader also the grasping response so when in your life can you do that you're practicing you're asked to practice after those five a day mindful check-ins when the alarm goes off and you check in with your body and then afterwards after you've checked in really felt yourself thirty seconds doing a quick centering technique again you can easily get that down to thirty seconds so you're looking at one minute total five times a day yeah also linking it to things so you can link it to neutral things that you do regularly just as a way of practicing it a lot that could be walking for a particular door some people like to do it before they leave the house or when they come back in from work for example both pretty useful or when you're compute when you have a moment like when your computers firing up in the morning that can take you know a minute or two to get going that's a good chance to center or before you check your emails now we're getting into the territory of what may be triggering yeah some people link it to say sports they do like every time they do a tennis serve they do a mini centering or beginning of every game or the beginning of every set they do a bigger centering some people do every time they go to the toilet that's quite a nice one in a way I find there's guy and I'm standing up and going to the toilet this is a relaxing down sensation that happens or when they wash their hands you know putting water on your face for example that can have a soothing quality which can aid centering yes so this we currently this sort of practices but either a practices linked to things or practicing just in daily life to see you're practicing centering a little bit more I really recommend even just the micro centering like Wendy Parma has one where she goes you know soft front extended back she calls it a lizard push-up where you extend through the extremities soft in the front and it can literally be three seconds as a mini centering so you can do that a lot of times a day you will forget however because you'll get busy so this is where you need the reminder system alarms all linking it to something where you can make it a habit where you can make it consistent I have a think now that pause the video have a thing where in your life do you have those moments the way you can put it into something you're already doing it can be where there's no challenge like walking out the door where there's a potential challenge like when I turn my email on I'm already starting to get a bit stress maybe or where there's already a challenge like in the cold showers is the classic one we recommend for people because you can calibrate the cold shower much easy and you can ask your child to be less annoying or more annoying or your partner to be less or more triggering a little bit tricky to do that the showers much more controllable so you can find that sweet spot with centering and you'll experience this on modules with tissue throwing and grabs we're looking for that sweet spot so this is where you know there's life and now we're getting really into application it's not really practice so that distinction practice it's controllable it's deliberate it's focused application what matters is the life the consequence the relationship the activity and centering is there just to help you so you're serving the activity not serving the practice so it makes sense so practice serving the practice we're getting bear or something application we're trying to make life better and with serving life we're serving our relationship our job of sports whatever and and that the centering is just helping us don't just try and do application you want to do practice to get better to get skilled it's not fair on other people to be putting your practice in your actual life and it's not fair on you actually as well so yeah applications is the other thing I'd like you to think about in your morning reflection again pause the video maybe write a few notes where can you apply a centering in your life what are the stress points if I think about my average day and brighten stress points buying train tickets that the station in Brighton is often very busy so that's a sort of mild stress point there's particular kinds of emails that I deal with most days there stress point I might want to Center out social media if there's a great one this often sums of argument on social media that can be a stress point my relationship currently isn't a stress point now I know for some of you it could be some of you were kids you're very likely to have stress points like getting the kids out of the house or my sister it's putting my niece to bed that's a consistent stress point the great thing about consistent stress points is you know it's coming stress points that come out the blue let's say I'm walking down the street and some guy just suddenly attacks me some shouts at me or whatever that's not consistent it's hard to be ready for it so unless you're good you're not gonna remember to apply you won't have had enough practice to apply now years of experience I can do that now I consistently do however when I was first learning center I just forget yeah the trick with those is how soon afterwards can you can remember so before is ideal for centering like I'm about to try and get my niece the bed that's always hard work she doesn't like going to bed I know this is going to be stressful I'm gonna sent it now or in the moment is next best when something's a surprise and you couldn't have seen it coming you know you didn't know you were doing a business presentation or never didn't know you had a first day and you'd be nervous it's something a surprise that just happens the email out the blue if you can do it in the moment great if you can't don't beat yourself up it just means you need to practice for longer make it more of a habit eventually what will happen is the distress response itself will become a signal to Center so now when I fill my jaw tense or my eyes tense that's a reminder to send out that's eventually where you're heading afterwards however is also better than not at all why because it means you stop stressing yourself out so like for example let's say you have a conflict on social media you our late father an idiot bar barbar is going around your head your body's ted's hang on a minute it's no longer happening I'm just making myself stressed Center yourself come back to the present moment regulate your breathing okay so I hope that gives you some application in your small oops you can discuss more I know I'm missing some good ones because it's almost like Senate ring can improve anything and can make enjoyable things more enjoyable as well oh I should speak a little bit about that so pleasure centering the opportunities I think around around pleasure centering letting go of clinging around pleasure food washing is often pleasurable people sexual activity there's opportunities around practice around all those kind of places where you're you're getting that pleasure yo girl when you're in yoga class and you're really enjoying a pose and then the teacher changes to another pose I like that one yeah you get to practice a mini loss and I'm the Khan those workshops you'll practice it that will do the intensives when you're speaking to a partner often we do quite brief debriefs and this is opportunity to practice whenever the time is over you'll see people always ah one more minute one more minute it's like no let go yeah we'll give you one more minute sometimes but the practice there is letting go so say that up front okay so hope that gives you a few ideas the main thing with centering is to make it your own once you see how useful centering is you'll do it a lot you'll get good at it it'll become natural and then teaching it to other people later in the course becomes easy