5 Tips for Dealing with Difficult Students #classroommanagement #teacher

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the five non-negotiables for success with the toughest kids now this is really quite meaningful because I think one of the biggest problems that teachers have is with these students that you know they they're really difficult to deal with you know everybody's got that one student from a class or that one Terror in the grade and um Everybody fears working with him so I think this is very important for us to understand when dealing with these really difficult students you know it it doesn't matter where they're from what their situation is why they're acting out they are acting out and how should we as teachers deal with them never take it personally never take it personally I think one of the biggest things as teachers is that uh if we encounter a difficult student they actually they try your patience right they actually say things to get a rise out of you because that's the only way that they get a ition so they might say something or do something to actually get an emotional reaction from you and because you are the adult in the room and you are the leader you're the teacher the last thing you should do is have an emotional reaction to something so don't take it personally you know you think are they attacking me they they singling me out that's not the case what you do want to do is um you want to if you're in a situation where a student tests you you want to stay calm and un unresponsive and focus on the behavior of or focus on the rules um and don't take it personally I think that's a very good tip number two second to last word is best second to last word is best okay what does this mean it means that you don't want to be the last one speaking so um if you have a problem with a student you and and they talking and they're saying something to you you're having an argument you don't want to end it be like this is my final word you want them to either apologize or to um accept that their behavior was wrong so they should be the last one to say so you can say Johnny what did you do um so nothing sir I'm like uh well that's not what I see over there can you tell me what it did ah sorry sir this is what happen good that means that you're in a place of strength if you always have to have the last say it just shows that you come from a place of weakness so try not to be the last one to respond I mean this isn't the fixed rule but just think about it this way if if you're going to talk to a student you want them to finish on a place if you have an argument you want to rebuild the relationship and you want them to finish by saying acknowledging that they were wrong or they want to apologize for the action okay um number three private is better than public public this is fantastic advice this is really good see a lot of students they act out in class because they want their attention they act out they want you to react to them so the best thing you can do in many situations is to isolate the student for example if a student does something wrong in class you can say Okay Timmy um uh I want to speak to you after class they like a sir it's way better than seeing them privately where they don't have an audience and you have a position of power than trying to settle debates or arguing in front of other students because then they feel oh I'm being watched and that gives them more power and it makes you less powerful so if possible if you have problem with a student do it privately take them aside and talk to them or get them to see you later okay that's really important okay number four negotiation is good what does that mean negotiation we should have strict rules and you know we should have certain boundaries that is perfect I think as adults as teachers we have to enforce those boundaries but if we can actually negotiate with with students it um actually makes them feel like part of the learning process a student uh can hand in their work you say okay well uh Lisa um uh you need to hand this in I expect it um very soon I expect it within the next week and and she can be um if she has a legitimate excuse and she says oh teacher I'm really busy but is it okay if I give it to you NE well maybe next Wednesday and then you say well yes and that means that you reached an agreement they don't feel like your authority figure just telling them what to do they feel they're part of the process and if you can instill that with with students that's fantastic but a little caveat um a lot of teachers actually go and they think oh I'm negotiating negotiation comes from a place of strength if you give into student demands that is not negotiating negotiating that is capitulating beautiful word the act of negotiation really good remember you want to include the students in the the um process of learning and uh also that gives them a part of uh the responsibility it makes them uh part of the decision-making process instead of just you know your underlings okay but they are really number five walking away is a strength most of us grow up and and we have this idea that the teacher is the ultimate Authority they can make anything happen they can make any student do anything at any time but there are times when you have to walk away where you have to ignore what was said and then attend to it at another time let me give you an example let's say uh you're it's after school and there's there's um there's something going on two boys are fighting and you get there and one of the boys actually swears that you will say something and then you you say something back to them and suddenly they want to you know argue with you about it um so what you have to do is take their names think about and walk away why you don't want to lose your face you don't want to lose your power in front of those students at that time it doesn't make sense to argue with them and try and get them to do what you want them to do it's just not going to happen you have to um look at the situation and see well you know this guy this kid isn't public he's with his friends there's no way I'm going to um get him to do what I want I'll just take his name ignore him walk away then face the battle uh face the battle where you are stronger so then you can the the next day or after the weekend you can call them in and actually have a one-on-one discussion with them it's like that um scene from Star Wars where um they he said Obi-Wan Kobi says I have the don't do it I have The High Ground right like sunu you want to fight a battle you don't want to fight a battle at a disadvantage make sure that when you're in that environment that you come from a place of strength and that you can win uh another situation let's say you're in public uh or in front of the school Gat and a student comes in with a uniform doesn't look up to scratch and you start arguing with them but there are parents around there are other students and instead of getting into a shouting match with the student and arguing just say um I would like to speak to you later um which class are you in okay come and see me later that way you say face and you don't lose that advantage and you can still have that in your classroom later to engage on your own territory don't fight where you might lose power